How to overcome shyness

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How to keep yourself active

FRESH FISH

 

There is a story about the fresh fish in Korea. Korean people always like to eat fresh fish. But there is a problem; sea near to Korea did not have many fish from decades. So the Fishermen of Korea decided to bring the fish from far away sea water. But there was a problem with far away sea water fish. Once they were brought to cities, the fish were not fresh, and Korean did not like the taste. The fishermen got a solution of this problem, they installed freezers in boats. Now the boats can go for farther distances and can stay longer there. However, the Koreans were able to distinguish the taste of fresh and frozen fish, and they did not like the frozen fish.

So, the fishermen tried one another technique to keep fish fresh. They installed some fish tanks in boats. They would catch a fish and stuff them in water tanks. But, in tanks fish used to move for some time after that they stop and become inactive.  They were tired and dull, but still alive. Unfortunately, the Korean can still taste the difference.  Because the fish did not move for many days, they lose their freshness.

Now the Korean companies were facing a big challenge to supply fresh fish to the market. All their previous attempts were failure. They were looking for some new approach to solve this problem.

So, ultimately they got a solution:

To keep the taste of the fish fresh, the Korean companies still keep the fish in water tanks. But, now they did a trick. In the tank they put a small shark. Now this little shark used to eat some fish, but it keeps active the rest of the fish. This way the Korean fishermen were able to supply fresh fish to their countrymen.

 The lesson we get from this story is that to keep ourselves active we need to continuously challenge ourselves. Otherwise we will become inactive and dull and will not be able to achieve much in our lives.

How to overcome shyness

Shyness is a problem in which a person find it difficult to talk with new people and even he has many other fears like what other people will say when he will do a certain type of work. Shyness hinders a persons growth, it stops him/her taking actions. It is very necessary for students and college going students to overcome shyness. Here, I am giving 10 tips to overcome shyness.

1.      Understand Your Shyness

Try to understand your shyness. What is the situation which makes you shy, try to understand it and then take advice of your parents or teachers.

Seek to understand your unique brand of shyness and how that manifests in your life. Understand what situation triggers this feeling? And what are you concerned with at that point?

2.      Learn to Like Yourself

You should remember that you are the unique person in this world. Practice appreciating yourself and liking the unique expression that is you. Give yourself a treat for your achievements.

3.      Releasing Anxiety through Breath

Whenever you are feeling anxious or not feeling good about yourself practice to become more assertive in order to overcome this problem. Take deep breaths and day all is well.

4.      Releasing Anxiety through Movement

One way of viewing anxiety is that it is blocked energy that needs to be released. We can release this energy through physical movement.

Exercises like jogging or walking will help to re-channel some of the blocked energies, but also helps by pulling you out of the situation and shifts your state of mind. This refreshed state of mind will help by adding perspectives to things.

5.      Visualization

Visualization helps us to overcome our negative pictures. Visualize yourself in the situation as a confident and happy person helps to shape your perception of yourself when you are actually in the situation. Close your eyes, sit back somewhere relaxing, listen to some relaxing music, imagine yourself in a scene or situation and see yourself the way you would like to be. Get all your senses involved to make it real.

6.      Affirmation

Positive words carry incredible energy. What we repeatedly say to ourselves, gets heard by our sub-conscious mind, and it acts accordingly. If we repeatedly tell ourselves that we are incapable, and too shy to do anything, we will become increasingly aware of evidence to back up this ‘fact’, and our actions will always match what we tell ourselves. Similarly, if we repeatedly tell ourselves that we are capable, confident, and wonderful human beings, our unconscious mind will likely surface the awareness that gives evidence to this new ‘fact’. While, we can’t lie to ourselves, positive visualization and affirmation are helpful in placing us along the road of positive thought patterns.

7.      Accept Rejection

Accept the possibility that we can be rejected and learning to not take it personally. Remember, you are not alone and we all experience rejections. It is part of life and part of the learning process. The key lies in how you handle rejections when they come. It helps to be mentally prepared before they happen. Never take it personally. It was not your fault. It just wasn’t meant to be. The scenario was not the best fit for you.

8.      Stop Labelling Yourself

Don’t label yourself as a shy person. You are you, you are unique, and you are beautiful. Can’t we just leave it at that?

9.      Practice Social Skills

Like any other skill, social skills can be learned through practice and experience. The more you put yourself out there, the easier it becomes next time. If you have a hard time knowing what to say, you can practice what to say ahead of time.

10.  Seek and Record Your Successes

As you overcome this condition we’ve been labelling as shyness, you will have many wins and realizations about yourself. You will gain insights into the truth behind social scenarios. You will start to view yourself differently and come to recognize that you can become comfortable and confident. When these wins and realizations happen, make sure to keep a notebook and write them down. Keeping a journal of your successes will not only boost self confidence, but also shift your focus towards something that can benefit you.

How to become a favroite student of your teacher

Here are 10 tips to become a favorite student of your teacher:

1. Always come to class on time. Most of the teachers notice and recognize students who are always on time and ready to learn.
2. Come prepared. Have all of your notes, homework and any other material needed for class.
3. Try to sit in the first two rows of the classroom. Sitting in the front of the room, not only will make you stay awake, but the teacher will notice you.
4. Pay attention the class when a teacher is teaching. This will reflect that you are interested in the subject. Teachers like the students who pay attention in the class.
5. Don't make noise in the class by unnecessary chatting while teacher is in class. Normally, talking before/after the bell is okay but don't be too loud. Teachers appreciate students who are quiet and hard working. Be attentive, not talkative, while you're in class.
6. Ask the relevant questions in class. It will help you to create a good image in the eyes of a good teacher.  
7. Help the teacher whenever he asks for a volunteer.
8.  Actively participate in the various cultural and non cultural activities of your school or college. 
9.   Make your parents go to parent teacher conferences. Advise them to ask how you can do better at the subject.
10. Thank you your teacher when he is leaves the class after teaching. 
    

Caution

Even if you do all the above mentioned steps, you still not become all of your teachers favorite. It all depends on the personality of each teacher.

 

How to set up a study group

Study groups are a good way for small numbers of students to work together. These groups can
range in size from two or three students to six or more, but they shouldn’t get much bigger. When a dozen students try to work together regularly, they’re likely to have scheduling problems and get distracted more easily.
Students in study groups meet regularly to discuss class work and help one another with assignments and
lessons. A good way for these groups to function is to choose one group member to set an agenda for each meeting, based on the class’s current lessons and assignments. It is up to the group to decide whether the same person should take on this responsibility regularly or rotate the job among all of the study group members.
Study groups have clear benefits. Members of small groups are apt to share the same attitude and motivation toward their studies so they are able to focus without being distracted by someone who may not be interested. Also, one group member may grasp certain class material more thoroughly than the others and so can help those who need assistance.
Those who need assistance in one area may, in turn, be more knowledgeable about other points and return the favor. When you set up a study group, you must arrange a few things at the beginning. Members of a new study group should get together after school to work out the details. They need to decide when and how often to meet. Meetings work best when they take place on the same days and times each week, though adjustments can be made. Next, the group should decide where to meet. Meetings can rotate among the homes of the members, but if one member has a perfect place to work and volunteers it, that can be even better. All group members should share the responsibility of providing snacks or refreshments, if there are going to be any, and the responsibility for cleaning up after sessions. At that first meeting, everyone should write down his or her address and phone number on a contact list. A group member with a computer can make copies of the list so that every member has the information.
If the group has trouble staying focused because a particular member or members cause distractions the group’s makeup may need to change. When they are properly organized, study groups can help the performance of all the students involved.

Tips to control your mind for study

 
To study effectively it is very necessary to control your mind. Because a controlled mind only can give you desired results.   Here are some ways through which you can control your mind.

1. Weed out petty negativity: The best way to practice this is to make watertight compartments for your mind. I know  it’s easier said than done but  this is  a sure shot way to overcome distraction. Say, you’ve a personal problem that constantly distract you from your study; you need to  solve the  problem first, before you begin study. One's the problem is solved tell yourself that you’ll not allow anger/negativity to bother you.  
2. What distracts you? Identifying distracting thoughts is the most important way of controlling the mind. Figure out why you’re not able to focus or pay attention and what keeps your mind per-occupied? Give yourself time to identify these thoughts and write them down. After you’re through with writing them, see them objectively and then you know why these are disturbing and harmful for you. Encourage self talk to overcome this. Once you start doing this regularly, you’ll know how to eliminate these thoughts from your mind. 
3. Meditate: Remember, meditation is for the mind, what food is to body. It helps in a holistic way, re-energizing you and thereby helping you to control your mind. Learn to relax and meditate even while working. Close your eyes for a while and try concentrating on an object. If you can concentrate for some time, you’ll be the master of your mind very soon. 
4. Know yourself well: To keep your mind in control, you need to know yourself . You’ve to be aware of who you are and your study goals. Then you can ask your mind to follow you, otherwise, you’ll blindly follow an in disciplined mind and in the end, go nowhere.

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Dear friends

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