Shyness is a problem in which a person find it difficult to talk with new people and even he has many other fears like what other people will say when he will do a certain type of work. Shyness hinders a persons growth, it stops him/her taking actions. It is very necessary for students and college going students to overcome shyness. Here, I am giving 10 tips to overcome shyness.
1.
Understand
Your Shyness
Try to understand your
shyness. What is the situation which makes you shy, try to understand it and
then take advice of your parents or teachers.
Seek to understand your
unique brand of shyness and how that manifests in your life. Understand what
situation triggers this feeling? And what are you concerned with at that point?
2.
Learn to
Like Yourself
You should remember that
you are the unique person in this world. Practice appreciating yourself and
liking the unique expression that is you. Give yourself a treat for your achievements.
3.
Releasing
Anxiety through Breath
Whenever you are feeling anxious
or not feeling good about yourself practice to become more assertive in order
to overcome this problem. Take deep breaths and day all is well.
4.
Releasing
Anxiety through Movement
One way of viewing anxiety
is that it is blocked energy that needs to be released. We can release this
energy through physical movement.
Exercises like jogging or
walking will help to re-channel some of the blocked energies, but also helps by
pulling you out of the situation and shifts your state of mind. This refreshed
state of mind will help by adding perspectives to things.
5.
Visualization
Visualization helps us to
overcome our negative pictures. Visualize yourself in the situation as a
confident and happy person helps to shape your perception of yourself when you
are actually in the situation. Close your eyes, sit back somewhere relaxing, listen
to some relaxing music, imagine yourself in a scene or situation and see
yourself the way you would like to be. Get all your senses involved to make it
real.
6.
Affirmation
Positive words carry
incredible energy. What we repeatedly say to ourselves, gets heard by our sub-conscious
mind, and it acts accordingly. If we repeatedly tell ourselves that we are
incapable, and too shy to do anything, we will become increasingly aware of
evidence to back up this ‘fact’, and our actions will always match what we tell
ourselves. Similarly, if we repeatedly tell ourselves that we are capable,
confident, and wonderful human beings, our unconscious mind will likely surface
the awareness that gives evidence to this new ‘fact’. While, we can’t lie to
ourselves, positive visualization and affirmation are helpful in placing us
along the road of positive thought patterns.
7.
Accept
Rejection
Accept the possibility
that we can be rejected and learning to not take it personally. Remember, you
are not alone and we all experience rejections. It is part of life and part of
the learning process. The key lies in how you handle rejections when they come.
It helps to be mentally prepared before they happen. Never take it personally.
It was not your fault. It just wasn’t meant to be. The scenario was not the
best fit for you.
8.
Stop Labelling
Yourself
Don’t label yourself as a
shy person. You are you, you are unique, and you are beautiful. Can’t we just
leave it at that?
9.
Practice
Social Skills
Like any other skill,
social skills can be learned through practice and experience. The more you put
yourself out there, the easier it becomes next time. If you have a hard time
knowing what to say, you can practice what to say ahead of time.
10.
Seek and
Record Your Successes
As you overcome this
condition we’ve been labelling as shyness, you will have many wins and
realizations about yourself. You will gain insights into the truth behind
social scenarios. You will start to view yourself differently and come to
recognize that you can become comfortable and confident. When these wins and
realizations happen, make sure to keep a notebook and write them down. Keeping
a journal of your successes will not only boost self confidence, but also shift
your focus towards something that can benefit you.